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Top sex positions: Standing

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:39 AM PDT


How many different sex positions have you tried – one, two or five?  That's like having eaten only five different dishes all your life! No wonder people in relationships claim sex gets boring after a while. To keep things interesting and help spice up your sex life, health.india.com is going to try and bring out a list of every sex position known to humankind. After exploring the standard missionary, rear entry, woman on top and spooning sex position in earlier articles in the series we are going to bring you a position a more athletic and shall we say advanced position:

Standing sex

The standing sex position is less common than the ones we have discussed till now and requires a certain degree of athleticism and strength especially from the male partner. It usually involves the female partner with her back against the wall using it as a support while the male partner enters her while supporting her body weight by holding her up. The female partner can either put one leg on the ground or wrap it around her partner's hips but only if he's strong enough to support her bodyweight.

Pros: It's a great sex position for a quickie or if you want something lusty and passionate. Since the partners are face to face there's kissing and greater chance of clitoral stimulation with all the different angles available. Also some angles will allow the male partner to penetrate more deeply than is possible during missionary or the other lying down positions.

Cons: This position needs a certain degree of confidence and it won't happen unless you're both passionate and/or into each other. Also unless the male partner is strong enough he will have trouble supporting his partner's weight. All in all it can be a quite intimidating position for the male – he has to support his partner's weight, thrust and give/have an orgasm at the same time. It isn't a cakewalk for the female partner either who is always wondering if her partner will drop her.

All said and done the standing sex position is a rough sex position which isn't for beginners but definitely worth the effort.

10 sex positions for body-conscious days

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT


The ladies' guide to looking good during sex

Sometimes, no matter how much your man showers you with compliments and drools over your naked body, you just can't seem to enjoy sexy time when you're having a body conscious day. Don't let how you feel about your body turn it into a no-sex night; switch the lights back on and use this intimate guide to sex positions to conquer your body blues.

Sex position to disguise a bloated stomach: Doggy style

The bloated tummy is perhaps one of the most common body hang-ups that women encounter when it comes to sex. The chances are, your lover hasn't even noticed that your stomach is slightly bloated. If it's really putting you off though, the doggy style is a good position for disguising it. There are two ways of going about this position; either lie flat on your stomach and let him enter you from a higher angle, or get down on all fours with your man positioned behind you. You can easily adjust the angle to reach your hotspot.

 Sex position to disguise jiggly boobs: Reverse cowgirl

Most men love the bouncing boob action when you're having sex – they find it a real turn-on! Sometimes, though, we worry about big boobs getting in the way or looking too saggy, which makes us lack confidence between the sheets. For the days when you just can't learn to love your lady lumps, try the reverse cowgirl. Sit on top of your man as if you're about to do the classic cowgirl position, but spin around so you're facing away from him. Make the most of this position because it allows you to be in full control; you can go as deep and penetrative or soft and gentle as you like.

Sex position for small boobs: Spooning

Moving from one worry to the polar opposite, some ladies would do anything for bigger breasts and feel they need to hide them away during sex by wearing a bra. This only decreases your sexual pleasure though. Indeed, sex author Debby Herbenick says that exposing your breasts 'boosts your comfort level during sex, helping you orgasm more often'. Instead of hiding your boobs, use them to enhance your sexual pleasure. If you're really not basking in body bravado today, lie on your side and ask him to lie behind you and enter you from the spooning position. You don't need to lose out on the sexual pleasure of your breasts; he can caress your boobs and other intimate regions from behind you.

Sex position for between waxes: Over the top rush

Having pubic hair in your sexy regions can make you self-conscious if you like it to be smooth and silky.  To combat this problem, try the 'over the top rush' position. This involves your man lying on his back with his torso hanging off the edge of the bed and his arms over his head relaxing on the floor. You mount him in a sitting position with your knees bent towards your chest, and hold onto his sides to keep you steady. The possibilities are endless with this position; spin around and do the reverse cowgirl, thrust up and down, or sway your hips from side to side to rub your G-spot.

Sex position to disguise big thighs: On his lap

This is a great one if you're looking to hide your thighs or your bum and it's great for showing off your boobs too. Sit on his lap and put your arms around his neck to steady yourself. This position allows him to caress your breasts and other frontal hotspots and you can control the pressure and the direction to reach the area that feels best. For deeper penetration, try leaning back and putting your arms out to support you, then rock back and forth. This position allows you to enjoy deep, penetrative sex while you're intimately cuddled up face-to-face (or boob-to-face) with your guy.

Sex position for bum issues: The hot hula

Feeling like your bum's a bit flat? Or too big? The hot hula position is great for hiding your bum when you're having one of those days because it's nowhere in his sight. Mount him in the missionary position, put your hands and knees on either side of his torso and then gently swivel your hips back and forth and side to side. These slow, controlled motions allow you to position his manhood exactly where you want it – this is the perfect position for locating your G-spot. Have a long session of slow, intimate sex or vary between gentle movements and some upwards and downwards thrusts.

Sex position to disguise your legs: The intimate tree hug

Hairy legs, cellulite, bruises, chipped toe nail varnish… whatever reason you have for wanting to hide your legs or feet, we've got a position for you. Ask your man to stand up with his feet approximately one shoulder width apart and his knees slightly bent. Put your arms around his neck and jump onto him, wrapping your legs tightly around his waist (as if you were climbing a tree). He can support you with his hands on your bum and lower back and if extra support is needed he can stand against the wall.

 Sex position to disguise your arms: Sockets

Whether it's bingo wings or dry skin you're worried about on your arms, this position has you covered. Start off by lying on your back with your legs spread and your knees bent. Next, ask your partner to lie on his side facing you and to place his leg over yours (if he's lying on his right hand side, he can slide his right leg under your left leg and vice versa). Gently guide his manhood down and put it inside you before using your legs to thrust forwards and backwards in a rocking motion. As your man will be on his side and you will be using your arms to steady yourself, he won't be able to get a good view of them.

Sex position for excess skin: Standing up

If you've lost a lot of weight, excess skin can make you feel self-conscious; don't let this be a lust-buster though. Standing up positions are great for if you have excess skin because a good posture will flatter your body and make your skin look more taut. Pick your favourite standing up sex position and enjoy!

Sex position for when you just don't feel pretty: The sure fire

Some days we have a breakout of spots and we just don't feel pretty. On these days, coming face to face in an intimate embrace with your partner can make you feel self-conscious. While your partner is no doubt attracted to you however you look, you can try a position where you aren't looking at each other's faces so closely to make you feel more confident. Ask him to lie on his back with one leg stretched out and the other bent. Straddle his bent leg so you are facing sideways and lower yourself onto him. You can rock back and forth or move up and down – find a position where it feels great for you both.

Think different! Try sex in storeroom

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:17 AM PDT


 If your bedroom boredom has taken a toll on your sex life, all you need is a drastic, yet quick change. How about changing the place in which you are having sex?

Forget the boring kitchen or the bathtubs... think bizarre, out-of-the-box! Try out unexplored corners in your house, which you've have never earlier considered as apt places to enjoy a steamy sex session. From your storeroom to the dirty basement that you've never bothered to clean up to the garage that you thought was only meant for car parking - try out off-beat sex destinations and convert them into sensuous love dens.

Sex expert Dr. Deepak Arora agrees, "Whenever you experience a change in your life you feel more excited and the same holds true for sexual intimacy. Couples should keep changing the decoration of their rooms like lighting, placement of objects, wall colours, curtains etc to infuse a fresh feel every time they get intimate, as it boosts their sexual pleasure."

Sex counselor Dr. Shivi Jaggi supports, "Taking of sex variations, a place can influence a couples' pleasure quotient. Any place outside the stereotypical bedroom will help couples keep alive their sexual fire. The reason why they find hotel rooms more appealing than their bedrooms is for because it's a new pleasure playground that takes their mind away from mundane domesticity and adds a zing of excitement. So, if they pay a little attention and experiment with the decor of certain places within their own homes, they can perform wonders in their sex life."

So, the next time you plan an intimate session with your partner, try out these unexplored places within your house and see the heat of passion building like never before...

Garage Passion : Everyone loves a wild backseat romp, but it can get even wilder if you try sex in the garage. The dark ambiance and the rusty feel will surely build up the mood for a night of passion. Fun would be at its peak when you play love games of hide and seek behind the parked cars and let your partner look for you and thus build up your sexual mood. Alternately try a sex romp on top of your car. Dr. Jaggi explains, "In a garage, it's the raw energy of the destination that adds to the pleasure and once you're away from the comfort of your bedroom, this crude place is definitely racy and exciting. If you really wish to have a new-fangled change, you can specially design your garage to make it an apt place for sex."

Word of caution: Make sure you do not make too much noise by pressing the car horn and disturbing your neighbours as they may interrupt your sexual act.

Arty Attic : An attic fills the space between the ceiling of the top floor of a building and the slanted roof, and they are known for being awkwardly shaped spaces with exposed rafters and difficult-to-access corners. So why not make the most of this neglected area in your house? Decorate it in an alluring manner to seduce your partner and during the act, try out new positions in accordance with the structure of the attic. Dr. Arora states, "Due to hectic lifestyles, couples have no time to maintain their attic space. But just devoting a single day to covert it into a lavish area to have sex can turn the heat on. Couples will surely leave their bedroom luxuries behind and have sex on rough surfaces like that of an attic."

Word of caution: Since attics bear a slanted roof, ensure that you don't get up much during the sexual act or else you'll end up hurting yourself and spoiling the fun.

Basement Pleasure: While some convert their basements into an office area, others keep it vacant as a partying hall. But think of decking it up in a way to arouse your trigger zones. Try having a set-up that looks completely breath-taking with a spa setting or a club like scene with a pole dancing space. Such creations enable a prolonged foreplay, thus building the mood right for hot sex. Dr. Jaggi adds, "If resources allow, you can get a boring basement area revamped totally and make it an exciting place to enjoy sex with your partner. Right from assortments of scented candles, aroma oils, and sexual paintings to dim lights etc, liven-up this area with everything that act as perfect aphrodisiacs".

Word of caution: Don't be too loud with your moaning sounds, as the echoes in an empty basement can wake up the other members in your house.

Cosy Corridor : If you thought the corridor was just meant for kids to play during the day and the elderly to relax in the evening, think again! You can make the most of this zone during your moments of pleasure. Think of a converting your otherwise tedious corridor/balcony into a sex inspiring den. Place a cot adorned with satin sheets and scented flowers can act as an add-on. Dr. Arora suggests, "If you're staying on the top floor of a high rise, then the balcony or corridor can be a perfect place to have sex. Remember, you've moved to the balcony because you want to enjoy the fresh air and have sex in an open area, so no curtains are required. Also, ensure there are no surrounding buildings at the same level as your balcony and if there are, then wait for mid-night, so you can enjoy the act in the dark."

Word of caution : Ensure that your kids are carefully locked inside their bedroom on that night and do not get to witness your act in open. Beware of peeping tom neighbours.

Storeroom Surprises : Imagine how a broken table lying wasted in the storeroom can make for a wonderful base to get intimate with your lover. While in the storeroom, you can try being a little more creative by taking out antique items, sexual pictures, Kamasutra paintings etc and creating an atmosphere to arouse your partner. Dr. Jaggi shares, "Having sex in the storeroom is a welcome change. Having limited space, it usually stimulates sex in standing positions. The little spaces meant for ventilation allow some amount of light to enter the room, so it would be an excellent shift, as far as the surrounding is concerned."

Word of caution: Clear the excess dust in the storeroom as it may cause discomfort for either of the partners.

Romantic Roof-top: Having sex in the open on your terrace can be awesome, provided you make optimum use of the space. It can be by arranging a candle-lit dinner for your beau or decorating the entire roof-top with flower strands reviving your first-night charm. Dr. Arora opines, "If the rooftop is too high from which noone can see you from the outside, it can be an experience to remember. To make it more arousing, you can have a roof-top garden, which will not only add to the sexual energy, but also let you enjoy the fragrance of the blossoms. The moonlight adds to the ambience."

Word of caution: Your roof-top should be as private as your bedroom, so ensure there are not too many roof-tops adjacent to your terrace that may hinder your moments of passion.

Top male sex problems

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT

 We don't know what's to blame but there seems to be an exponential rise in the number of sex problems that men suffer from and we get to hear about it every single day on our Q&A section. Every single day we receive numerous sex-related queries from men. Here are some of the top ones:

Erectile dysfunction

Impotency or erectile dysfunction seems to be the most serious problem afflicting Indian men. At least half of the sex-related questions deal with men who are suffering erection-related problems and it's hard to pin down the exact reason for this epidemic. A sedentary lifestyle, lack of exercise, smoking, drinking, obesity-related diseases and stress are all taking a toll on our men. The problem is exacerbated by the prudish nature of our society. Most men wouldn't dare go to a doctor to discuss the problem which leads to a lot of unhappiness and self-image issues among men. Read how to beat impotency.

Penis image issues

For some reason the modern man has become obsessed about his penis. He worries about its length, girth, inclination, colour and contour to an extent that borders on the psychotic. Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that Indian men don't get to see a lot of penises. In other cultures like America or even parts of Asia, it's normal for people to shower naked and for men to see other men and realise that their penis is perfectly normal but this doesn't happen in India. Having seen only penises in porn, men start to believe that all of us should be endowed with penises that look big enough to kill people. Find out average size of the Indian male penis. 

Ejaculation issues

Most men seem to think that they suffer one of the following ejaculation issues – premature, delayed or none at all. Premature ejaculation is a very common problem or at least the perception of it is. Most people have this notion that they are supposed to last in bed for forty minutes or something like they show on porn movies (which are unreal and fabricated) but the truth is that most men ejaculate within three or five minutes of penetration. Expecting to last 40 minutes like porn stars is akin to expecting to fly after watching Superman.  Delayed or no ejaculation is another problem that's common to men. Some of these men have no trouble ejaculating while masturbating but fail to ejaculate while having sex. This can cause great discomfort to them if they lose their erection before ejaculating and it makes them feel that sex is incomplete. Read how to beat premature ejaculation.

Sex duration

Along with ejaculation another sore issue seems to be the length of the act. And again we have the porn-induced illusions that vaginal intercourse is supposed to last for at least one hour. Most men don't realise that porn is fabricated and expect similar situations. There's also the inability to realise that there's far more to sex than vaginal intercourse. Read these articles on outercourse to broaden your horizon and discover more about sex.

Most of our sex problems are caused by either unrealistic expectations of sex what should be like or due to unhealthy lifestyle habits. Simply exercising and quitting smoking and drinking can greatly improve your sex life. If your problem still persists you can get in touch with a sex therapist, even the experts on this site.

Can’t sleep without masturbating! (Sex doubt of the day)

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT


Q: I have a serious problem where I am unable to sleep without masturbating every night. I feel my penis is very small and I ejaculate even if someone touches it. Is this normal? I also want to know, will masturbation affect my married life and my chances of being a father in the future? I don't smoke or drink. Please help me out.

Answered by Sexual Health Physician & Medical Sex Therapist Dr Vijaysarathi Ramanthan
It is true that the chemicals released during masturbation (or any sexual activity) could make you relax. But, you have programmed your brain in a such a way that you can only sleep after masturbating and now you are feeling that you can't sleep without doing it. However this is NOT a serious problem as there are ways to revert brain programming (behaviour re-modification) by scientific methods. Also please don't jump to conclusions about your penis size without knowing what the average penis size is for Indians.

Sometimes the length is normal but it appears smaller for various reasons (for example, if you have a big belly). Premature/quick ejaculation could be due a number of reasons but mainly due to anxiety. This too can be managed through some behavioural techniques and medications if necessary. Read this article for more tips to beat premature ejaculation. Also I can assure you that masturbating won't affect your ability to bear children in any way. Read more about the health benefits of masturbation here. If you have any sex-related queries you can contact me on my website.

Can’t sleep without masturbating! (Sex doubt of the day)

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT

Improve your sex life with these exercises

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT


Exercise your way to better sex – you'll be shocked at how much your sex life improves with these simple exercises or sexercises:

Sex exercises for women

Skipping

If you're stressed the last thing you want is sex. Doing cardio-based activities will pump you full of endorphins and improve your mood though. In turn this will make you want it more and will give your sex drive a boost.

Method: wear a sports bra, aim for about 70-80 skips a minute at first. To tone your abs do a running skip by bringing your knees up in a high march as you jump, alternating each leg between skips.

Upavistha Konasana

Are you satisfied in bed? Most women aren't. If you want to orgasm more then you should try and increase the blood flow to the pelvis with this fab yoga move.

Method: Sit on the floor with your legs wide. Keep your toes and knees pointing straight up.  Lean your upper body forward as far as it goes comfortably. Hold for five to 10 deep breaths.

 The plank

Is this another exotic position? Nope. Fact is most women hate crazy positions because for most of us our bodies jiggle and wiggle involuntarily.  The plank, though, helps tone up these wobbly areas and makes you more confident trying new things in bed.

Method: lie face down, push up and hold your body off the ground using your toes and forearms for support. Keep your back straight. Hold for 30-60 seconds and do daily.

Pelvic floor muscles

They don't sound pretty, but pelvic floor exercises are worth doing. Doing pelvic floor exercises regularly will make you more sensitive and they can give you stronger orgasms. Plus you can do them anywhere – at your desk, on the bus, in the shower.

Method: imagine you are urinating and then try to stop the flow. Repeat this hold, squeeze, and release cycle 10 times. Try to hold each for 10 seconds.

Bow bend

We've all seen that insanely good yoga whizz and we've all probably had the same thought: I bet they're great in bed. Getting more flexible will enable you to do more positions and allow for deeper penetration, which will make sex better for both you and your guy.

Method: lie on your stomach and take your heels as close to your butt as you can, then take your hands behind and hold your ankles. Keep your knees hip width apart.

Sex exercises for men

Hip Lunges

Every man must learn how to thrust, and thrust well. Hip lunges work the hips and will give you the perfect power force you need to please your girl.

Method: Place one foot forward, so that your feet are about a metre apart and your knees are slightly bent. Push your pelvis forward. Hold this position for 30 seconds making sure you feel a stretch.

Interval running

If the flesh around your pubic bone is padded with too much fat it will make your penis look smaller and make it more difficult to penetrate your girl deeply.

Method: find a hill and sprint up it, then walk back down for recovery. Beginners aim for 10 x 45 seconds uphill running whilst advanced runners should aim for 15 to 20 x 60 seconds uphill running.

 Kegels

Did you think kegels were just for the girls? Think again boys. Kegels can make you last longer, be harder and they give you more control over your ejaculations.

Method: imagine you are urinating and then try to stop the flow. Repeat this squeeze, hold, release cycle 10 times, trying to hold for 10 seconds per squeeze.

Upper body workout

Has your girl ever complained that you're squashing her when you're in bed? If so, it's probably time you worked on your upper body strength.

Method: to build strength in your upper arms do several sets of different exercises. A good group to try is: 12 x tricep dips, 12 x box press-ups and 12 x pull-ups. Repeat this three times.

Football

Love the beautiful game? So does your libido. Football boosts testosterone levels, which in turn gives your sex drive a boost.

Method: we don't need to tell you how to play football, but one tip we do have is to try and play in front of your home crowd. Research has found men's testosterone is higher for home games.

How your body image affects your sex life

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT


Sara and John have been married for five years and are deeply in love. However, whenever they have sexual activity they always end up arguing. If John touches Sara's waist, she pushes his hand away and tells him not to touch her fat. Sara prefers to keep her shirt on, even if the lights are off, and she always tells John to keep his eyes closed.  John constantly tells Sara she is beautiful and how much he is attracted to her, but it never seems to help the situation and alleviate her anxiety. 

Photoshopped MadonnaToday, it's hard to feel beautiful, and for many women feeling beautiful and feeling sexy go hand-in-hand. The culture we live in makes it difficult for women to feel adequate physically, as everywhere you look—the movies, magazines, billboards- there are images of women that are unrealistic to attain. In many cases the images are photoshopped to make the woman's body look even more 'perfected' than it does in reality, but the knowledge that it's photoshopped doesn't curtail its dramatic impact.  Consequently, many women walk around with a negative body image and feel like they aren't perfect enough to be beautiful and for many, this translates into insecurity in the bedroom.

What Does Body Image Have To Do With Sex?

Body image is essentially the way you view your body; self-image is the way you view yourself as a person. For many women, the two go hand-in-hand and easily feed off of each other. A woman could be super accomplished professionally, have many friends, be in a committed healthy relationship with a man who finds her attractive; yet, she sees herself as not good enough because her stomach seems too flabby to her. Or she doesn't like her nose. Or thinks her hips are too big.  In other words, her belief of 'my body isn't good enough' becomes 'I am not good enough'; it's almost as if nothing else about her matters.

 A healthy body image is one where you have a sense of acceptance with your body, you don't measure your self-worth based on your body, and most of all, and you can feel comfortable in your own skin.  When a woman looks at her body and only sees flaws, she may not only feel bad about her physical identity, but about the kind of happiness she deserves in life, e.g. whether she is worthy of being loved by a partner.

A strong component of sexual satisfaction is being comfortable in one's skin. If a woman is convinced that she is unattractive, it will be difficult for her to present and she will not be able to fully enjoy the sexual experience. Moreover, she may feel inhibited in having sexual needs. She may think to herself, 'How can I seek or experience pleasure when I look like this?'  She may be passive and focus on her partner's pleasure instead of her own, and she may be hesitant to initiate sexual activity. 

As seen in the above case of Sara and John, Sara was unwilling to be fully naked with John and it clearly was affecting their sexual dynamics. Sara evidently viewed her body with disgust, and her unwillingness to be relaxed with John is a manifestation of her conviction that he would be disgusted too.  Obviously that thought is divorced from reality, as John always told her how much he was into her, but that wasn't enough to challenge her deep-seeded feelings of inadequacy. 

What Can I Do To Improve My Body Image?

If you find it hard to drop your conditions for considering yourself beautiful and sexy, try to pretend for a moment that you've already met those conditions and you are perfect exactly the way you are. Bask in that confidence and the permission to feel comfortable with your body just the way it is. Does it feel wrong? Unjustified? Arrogant?

 See what comes up for you. For some women, doing this exercise allows them to identify messages about their body that they received from family members, relationship partners, or society in general. It can help clarify personal core beliefs about what is beautiful, sexy, and who decides. And most importantly, it is a powerful reminder that negative body beliefs can shift when you are willing to challenge your mind-set and the mirror.

Try this exercise:  Stand in front of the mirror (or if you're not comfortable with that, sit in a comfortable position). Pick a body part you don't like and try to think for a few moments about positive things about that body part. For example; if you don't like your butt, concentrate on thinking about positive things your butt does for you, such as providing a cushion to sit.  Focus on that feeling of gratitude and remind yourself that you are more than just your body.

Top sex positions: Spooning

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT


How many different sex positions have you tried – one, two or five?  That's like having eaten only five different dishes all your life! No wonder people in relationships claim sex gets boring after a while. To keep things interesting and help spice up your sex life, health.india.com is going to try and bring out a list of every sex position known to humankind. After exploring the standard missionary, rear entry and woman on top in earlier articles we are going to discuss a more lazy sex position this time:

Spooning

The position is called spooning because it represents the way two spoons lay alongside each other. This one is more popular because it requires considerably less work from both parties. It's one of the more lazy sex positions. Basically, it's a version of rear entry but instead of the woman lying on her chest or bend on her knees she is on her side.

Pros: Because of the angle of penetration, it's easier to hit the G-spot (located along the frontal vaginal wall) with this position. Also it leaves the man's arms free to explore various erogenous zones like the back, clitoris, breasts and neck. Since there's no weight on the belly, it can also be used during pregnancies.

Cons: There is no face-to-face contact which is the reason it's perceived as a less romantic position. Some men also complain that their penis tends to slip out during sex in this position and it's also harder to maintain an erection in this position.

Top sex positions: Woman on top

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT

 How many different sex positions have you tried – one, two or five?  That's like having eaten only five different dishes all your life! No wonder people in relationships claim sex gets boring after a while. To keep things interesting and help spice up your sex life, health.india.com is going to try and bring out a list of every sex position known to humankind. After exploring the standard missionary position and the rear entry, we are going to explore a new position which gives more control to women:

Woman on top

The woman-on-top is not just a sex position; it's a metaphor of female equality. The position gives women far more control in movement and thrusting. A variety of different positions can come under this umbrella term, though the most common ones involve the woman lying flat on top and that's why it's also known as the reverse missionary position. However, even positions where the women are sitting on top of her partner can count. A famous variation called the reverse cowgirl is the one when the woman faces away from the man.

Pros: The position is perfect for couples where the male partner is significantly heavier. The position also imitates the way most guys masturbate with their back on the bed and this makes it a familiar posture. The major upshot is it gives women unprecedented control and allows them to control the thrusting. It's great during pregnancy as it doesn't put any pressure on the belly.

Cons: There have been some concerns that overenthusiasm in this position can lead to some serious injuries like penile fractures. Also there's no place for clitoral stimulation and another major con is that since the penis is pointed up the force of gravity works against it, causing the blood to flow away from the tip which might make it harder to maintain an erection for a longer duration.

Top sex positions: Rear Entry or Doggy Style

Posted: 19 May 2013 11:22 AM PDT


How many different sex positions have you tried? One, two or five?  That's like having eaten only five different dishes all your life! No wonder people in relationships claim sex gets boring after a while. To keep things interesting and help spice up your sex life,health.india.com is going to try and bring out a list of every sex position known to humankind. After exploring the standard missionary position in the first part of the series we are going to talk about a far naughtier decision in this outing

Rear Entry or Doggy Style

It usually involves the woman on her knees facing away from the partner. Some variations can have the woman lying face down as well with a pillow under her belly for more leverage.

Pros: It's a different sort of penetration from traditional missionary and allows the penis to hit the G-spot better, which is supposed to be located somewhere along the front vaginal wall. Also if a woman is bent on her knees, it also allows space for clitoral stimulation with the hand. During pregnancies, this style is more comfortable for the female partner because there's no weight on the belly. This style is often associated with rough sex and quite popular with the ladies who even in these egalitarian age want a real man from time to time.

Cons: The position is less personal because there's no eye contact. Also many women aren't comfortable because it leaves them in a slightly vulnerable position. The degree and angle of penetration can hurt for some people.

This is just the second part of the series. Watch out for other sex positions like woman on top, reverse cowgirl, sixty-nine, spooning and many more. Also find out how to beat erectile dysfunction and cure premature ejaculation.

Why Kochadaiyaan trailer didn’t make it to the Cannes film festival?

Posted: 19 May 2013 09:11 AM PDT

 The decision to unveil the trailer of Rajinikanth starrer Kochadaiyaan at Cannes was called off at the last minute

As the team of Kochadaiyaan is still working on the final output of the trailer, the film couldn't make it to the 66th Cannes International Film Festival. " The trailer is shaping out well. I'm working on more surprises. All efforts are going in to release it as soon as possible," posted the film's director Soundarya Ashwin on her Twitter page. A source from the film's unit revealed, " We were all set to go to the festival, but our director was not happy with the final output of the trailer. She didn't want an unsatisfactory promo to be released at the festival and, therefore, opted out of it." Rajinikanth, who was supposed to attend the festival to promote his film also cancelled his plans.

Kochadaiyaan is touted to be India's first motion-capture feature film made along the lines of Hollywood films like Tin Tin and Avatar. It also features Deepika Padukone, Aadi Pinisetty, R. Sarath Kumar, Jackie Shroff and Shobana in important roles. The music is by Oscar-winning composer A.R. Rahman.

The film is being jointly produced by Eros International and Media One Global Entertainment.

15 Respectable ways to dump your partner

Posted: 19 May 2013 09:11 AM PDT


A relationship counsellor in Australia has suggested easier ways to break up with you lover, while showing respect to him or her at the same time.

"Being told 'it's over' is never going to be great news no matter how it is delivered," the Sydney Morning Herald quoted Relationships Australia counsellor, Bill Hewlett.

"But you can make it more comfortable to some degree."

She suggests that relationship should be called off in person. Do not deliver the bad news by email or even worse, have someone else do it for you.

"Ending it in person shows that you have respect for the person and the relationship," said Hewlett.

Apparently, April 2 is the date that the more relationships fail than any other according to data released by Facebook which tabulated the number of status changes from 'in a relationship' to 'single' and 'married' to 'divorced' over 2010 and 2011.

In any case, if you want to be one of the crowd, today is the day to break it off.

Always resort to telling the truth. The tired cliche, 'it's not you, it's me' just doesn't cut it. Tell your partner, with decorum, why the relationship is not working for you.

"Everyone needs closure," said clinical psychologist Jo Lamble.

"We find it very hard to move on from a relationship if the reasons for the break-up don't make sense. It's far better to be as honest as possible, for the sake of the person you're rejecting."

Delivering the news in the form of a feedback sandwich can alleviate the pain inflicted. It works by saying something nice, delivering the bad news and then finishing with a positive statement.

"The person getting dumped is going to feel rejected," said Hewlett.

"So it's important to give them some good feedback amongst the bad news."

Hewlett recommends highlighting a quality you admire in them and to finish by reiterating that your time together will not be forgotten.

If you are uncertain about the next step, enlist the help of a counsellor for relationship advice.

"Ending a relationship requires serious consideration and that may involve the use of sounding boards including friends, family, or a counsellor," said Jo Lamble.

"But be aware that everyone - except hopefully the counsellor - may have their own agenda for any advice they give, so that's why I suggest using others as a sounding board so you can hear your own voice, not theirs."

Hewlett also suggests steering clear of your computer as not only will you have to contend with social media's abrupt defriending and unfollowing, you may be receiving an email from WotWentWrong.com, a site allowing dumpees to ask their dumpers for answers via a third party.

Timing should be well chosen. Don't deliver the news on a special occasion or birthday, you don't want your ex associating that date with heartbreak and rejection forevermore.

And don't do it just before they are heading off to work or an event. It makes sense that Friday is the day of the week that most break-ups happen according to the aforementioned Facebook study, as it gives you and your now-ex the weekend to help recover.

To be clear why you are leaving, it might be a good idea to write yourself a detailed list with your reasons. This can be referred to later when you are feeling heartbroken after fixating on the good times.

Don't say 'we need to talk'. If you want to set off alarm bells that will cause a wall to instantly come up or for the person to run a mile before you've had the chance to say what you need to say, do not speak, text or email these four dreaded words. Instead, get straight to the point, using the aforementioned feedback sandwich.

So that the news is not a massive shock, Jo Lamble advises to give some warnings that you are unhappy in the time leading up to the break-up.

Counsellor also suggests taking a test first. Researchers have developed a test which can predict whether a relationship is going to last. Using automatic word association, Ronald D. Rogge and associates from the University of Rochester studied 222 coupled volunteers automatic responses.

The researchers found that volunteers who found it easy to associate their partner with bad things and difficult to associate the partner with good things were more likely to separate over the next year.

While it is fine to give warnings, Jo Lamble advises against constant threats of leaving. If you say it, be prepared to back it up with the action.

Change can be scary, so it's wise to get your hands on as much information as you can in preparation for the life-changing event.

Setting boundaries is also quite vital. If asked 'can we still be friends?' know that it might be best to keep your distance for a while.

Don't start looking for someone else first as that is just bad taste as you may end up facing the awkward situation of answering your own partner's want ad.
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