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- 10 Reasons Your Husband Isn’t Having Sex with You Read more: No Sex in Marriage - Husband Won't Have Sex.
- Shahrukh Khan and Deepika Padukone’s jodi is back!
- Safe Sex - Be Sure and Safe
- 'Chennai Express' trailer out, promises loads of fun
- Drama over 'Krrish 3' release date?
- Jiah Khan suicide: Respect life more than love, says Shah Rukh
| Posted: 13 Jun 2013 11:51 AM PDT  1. He wants to relax after a long day.If he's retreating to his man cave each night, that could create a pattern of disconnection, says Debra Castaldo, PhD, a relationship expert and director of the Center for Couples and Family Solutions in Midland Park, NJ. He may not realize you're missing him, though, so tell him. Try: "It seems like we're spending most of our evening time apart. I know you want to chill out, but I miss being with you. Maybe we can do something relaxing together," suggests Dr. Castaldo. Find something soothing you both enjoy, whether it's drinking wine, reading side by side in bed or finding a new favorite TV show. Once there's togetherness, there's an opportunity for intimacy, says Dr. Castaldo.2. He's reminded of the kids.Plenty of parents have scintillating sex lives, but some husbands have trouble seeing their wives as sexual beings once they become moms, says Laurie J. Watson, sex therapist and author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage. Another libido killer: putting children—and not your spouse—in the center of the family unit, says Charles J. Orlando, relationship expert and author of the series The Problem With Women … is Men. Clear out kiddie cues in your bedroom: toys, photos, even their laundry, suggests Watson. And if your children are hanging in your room when you want time alone with your hubby, tell them, "This is Mommy and Daddy time," advises Orlando.3. He wants to play video games or watch sports."Talking face-to-face, as women want, isn't husbands' natural mode," explains Watson. So they get hooked on World of Warcraft or watching the Yankees with the guys because there's no emotional investment. To peel him away from the screen, strike a deal about which nights you'll tune into each other, says Dr. Castaldo. "It's not the weekends away and date nights that make a marriage. It's the agreements you have about what's acceptable in your relationship's everyday life."4. It's that time of the month.Some men have an ick factor about periods, says Orlando; others assume you won't engage in potentially messy sex. But if rising hormones during menstruation send your sex drive soaring, let him know. "It can end up being a great experience," says Watson (even if you have to sacrifice a towel or two!). If he's still leery, suggest using a condom or sticking with non-intercourse activities.5. He wishes sex were more spontaneous.Remember when you'd have sex in the kitchen just because? While it's hard to sustain that impulsiveness as more responsibilities arise, avoid turning sex into a to-do list item. Instead, "schedule sex in your mind," recommends Watson. "Looking forward to it adds to the whole experience for women." But don't let him in on your seduction plan. "When he gets home from work, be dressed like when you were dating, and watch how fast that spontaneity returns," says Orlando. Other things to try: Send the kids to grandma's for the night, or swap dinner-and-a-movie night for some hotel sex.6. He has performance anxiety.Having sex relies on his ability to rise to the occasion. That's a lot of pressure! Plus, previous less-than-stellar sexual encounters can add to the unease and make him turn off, says Watson. If you think that's the case, ask him to do something pleasurable just for you, like oral sex or manual stimulation. "Odds are if she asks and gets excited, her arousal will arouse him," says Watson.7. He's having 'Magic Mike' envy.Newsflash: Women aren't the only ones worried about waning attractiveness. "There's enormous pressure from our culture to have flat bellies," says Watson. And men feel that. So let him know that he still sets your heart racing. "Also, structure your lifestyle so you're active together," she adds. A bit of exercise—like walking together—can help you both regain confidence and energy. If all else fails, do something that shifts the spotlight off him, like asking for a massage. "You being face down and naked means he's not being watched or judged, and natural lust takes its course," says Watson.8. He's watching too much porn.Spending lots of time online doesn't mean he's less attracted to you, says Watson. But the sheer volume and variety of images "can lower male desire and cause erectile dysfunction," she says. If his appetite for X-rated material is growing while your sexual activity declines, have an honest, straightforward discussion and ask if there's an underlying issue, says Orlando. "The symptom is using porn; the issue is something larger between the couple." The smartest course of action might be seeking the advice of a therapist.9. He's worried about work.It's a good idea to agree on a time to turn off the phone and stop checking work emails so you can focus on each other. Still, be flexible when duty actually calls and he has to answer. "Being indispensable gives him a sense of value," says Watson. And feeling valued can boost his self-esteem—in all areas. He also has a natural instinct to protect and provide, says Orlando. That's why being his sounding board and his biggest cheerleader when work worries arise can help him feel confident enough to clock out to enjoy some couple time.10. He'd rather sleep."When given the choice between changing gears/creating a romantic environment and sleeping, he might decide he's too tired," says Orlando. If one or both of you are exhausted at the end of the day, aim for morning sex. Or just let your hubby know when you're OK with a quickie. If he understands you're not anticipating a marathon lovemaking session, he may be more apt to delay bedtime a bit. |
| Shahrukh Khan and Deepika Padukone’s jodi is back! Posted: 13 Jun 2013 11:51 AM PDT  The actors are seen having a gala time with a group of Kathakali dancers in the background While Shahrukh Khan is sporting a goofy dimpled expression, Deepika Padukone is seen in her graceful best shaking a leg with a group of Kathakali dancers in one of the stills of Chennai Express. The picture is literally soaked in South Indian flavour. The vibrant Kathakali dancers, Deepika's orange and pink half-saree – the colours and cheery faces of SRK and Deepy are enough to make any hardcore movie buff smile from ear to ear. While the lead actors of the film are shaking a leg, classical style, in another still SRK and director Rohit Shetty are posing like dudes atop a jeep. And of course how could we miss the car turned upside down in the background. Isn't that an essential on anything that has a Rohit Shetty stamp on it… Welikes the hunks in their hot sunglasses and their casual avatars! What about you, readers? |
| Posted: 13 Jun 2013 11:51 AM PDT Sex is totally natural, great fun and an interesting exercise as well. Having said this, it needs to be emphasized that sexual intercourse involves certain health risks because of the exchange of bodily fluids among partners.  Any kind of sexual activity— penile-vaginal sex, genital-oral sex or anal sex can lead to sexually transmitted diseases (STD) if those involved have multiple partners, or have unprotected sex with people who may be infected with STDs such as genital herpes, genital warts, Chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis and many others. It also increases the risk of protracting deadly diseases such as AIDS, Hepatitis B and C. STDs Can Ruin You Forever Media reports suggest that there is gross ignorance among many young people who believe sexually transmitted diseases are easily curable. Truth is, only some STDs like Chlamydia can be cured. The Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) can only be managed with medication and there is a serious danger that HIV will eventually lead to AIDS, the killer disease. According to a recent UNICEF survey, more than half of fresh HIV cases all over the world happen to be that of young people aged 15-25 years—which simply means, young and sexually active people are currently at a higher risk of becoming HIV positive. Likewise, Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) causes genital warts and can lead to the fatal cervical cancer in women. British model and Reality TV star Jade Goody's swan song as she died a painful death from cervical cancer is a sad reminder that the clock cannot be set back once the damage is done. Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) causing Genital Herpes can be managed but cannot be cured. Though HSV 2 is generally associated with Genital Herpes, HSV1 known to cause cold sores is also known to cause genital herpes. Since there is no known cure for genital herpes, the infected person has to suffer painful lesions in and around the genital area during each outbreak and also the possible transmission of the herpes virus to a partner for the rest of their life. Moreover Herpes infection outbreak makes a person more vulnerable to HIV infection because the virus can easily enter the body through the herpes lesions. Those who have multiple sex partners and who indulge in unprotected vaginal, oral or anal sex can contract and transmit Hepatitis B and C, which are deadly viral diseases that cause hepatitis. Chronic infections can lead to cirrhosis and even liver cancer, which has a poor outcome. More recently it has been discovered that hepatitis C virus has serious implications on the lung too. Condoms are not known to prevent Hepatitis viral infection, but their proper use can minimize infection. Keep Condoms Handy A condom prevents the intermingling of body fluids (saliva, blood, semen or vaginal fluids) from one person to another during sexual intercourse. These body fluids can contain disease-causing germs that can cause syphilis, gonorrhea, hepatitis, genital herpes, genital warts and even AIDS. If a condom is not used, an infected partner can pass on the disease to an unsuspecting, uninfected partner. Though condoms are not entirely dependable in their protection against all STDs, they still offer the best protection against most sexually transmitted diseases. Safe Sex and Women STDs can be dangerous for anyone, but women are known to suffer the consequences more than men. For instance, many STDs can seriously damage a woman's reproductive organs rendering her infertile. Women are prone to cervical cancer caused by HPV. Worldwide statistics prove that women belong to the vulnerable group that is getting increasingly infected with HIV. Additionally, if a woman has an STD while she is pregnant, she can pass on the infection to her baby. Women who have an outbreak of herpes virus while they are pregnant, risk entering premature labor and passing on the virus to the infant that can in turn lead to the baby's nerve damage and death. So it is with AIDS, Hepatitis B and other sexually transmitted diseases. Women who engage in prostitution are generally open to risks of sexually transmitted diseases. Though they are aware that condoms can prevent STDs to some extent, they are rarely in a position to dictate terms to a customer. Female condoms are expensive and often not user-friendly. Surveys done among sex workers, especially in under developed and developing countries, suggest that female sex workers would say 'No' to condoms and 'Yes' to customers, rather than insist on using condoms and risk losing customers who demand the "natural feel." Safe Sex Today is Abstinence "There is no such thing as safe sex for someone contemplating sex with an HIV-positive person." Dr. Michael Gottlieb (his was the first original report to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) on gay-related immune deficiency (GRID). It was later renamed AIDS.) With increasing health risks in sex, many people agree that abstaining from sex—especially of the casual, sexual play is the only sure way that can guarantee freedom from unwanted pregnancy and sexual disease infections. Sexual abstinence is practiced by many people all over the world who wait until marriage or until they have established a permanent relationship with another and then get sexually intimate with the partner. Abstinence can fail on two counts. For many, sex is an uncontrollable basic instinct and when caught in a passionate moment, all vows of abstinence are forgotten. Secondly, abstaining from sex is not often a choice for women and girls in underdeveloped countries reeling under male domination. The ABC Approach The three key behaviors that can control sexually transmitted diseases summed up as the ABC approach are: Abstinence or delaying sexual initiation among youth, Being faithful to a single sexual partner (avoiding multiple partners) and correct and consistent use of condoms especially in high-risk groups. The USAID reports a remarkable decline in HIV in countries like Uganda, Rwanda, Zimbabwe, Kenya, Thailand, Cambodia, India, by implementing the ABC approach and other preventive behaviors. Safe Sex Tips • Postpone your sexual experimentation or sexual initiation till you are out of your teens or really mature enough to have safe sex • Avoid reckless sexuality and take precautions before you become sexually intimate with a person • Refrain from wild partying that involves alcohol, drugs and risky sexual behavior • Beware of irresponsible partners who can lace your drink with ketamine drug and exploit you sexually when you are senseless • Talk with your partner about his/her sexual history and it is safer for both of you to get tested for STDs if you are frequently changing partners • Never have any type of sexual intercourse without condoms • If using sex toys make sure you clean them always with disinfectant before and after use each time • Avoid anal sex because it involves a greater amount of friction and other stress that can induce the condom to tear. Even otherwise, anal intercourse is too risky because rectal tissues can tear and bleed and disease germs can be easily transmitted from one person to another through the wounds. The only safe sex that is truly safe is lovemaking in a mutually faithful relationship where both partners are HIV negative and free from sexually transmitted diseases. Sex is a great stress buster and a powerful expression of love. It is important that a man and a woman stay faithful to each other for life in a sexual relationship in order to ensure that the wonderful fun doesn't become the worst nightmare |
| 'Chennai Express' trailer out, promises loads of fun Posted: 13 Jun 2013 11:51 AM PDT |
| Drama over 'Krrish 3' release date? Posted: 13 Jun 2013 11:51 AM PDT  Traditionally, in the first week of a film's release, the distributors and the producers stake a claim to 52.5 per cent of the film's total box office collections. The multiplex owners take the remaining amount home. However, trade insiders say that given that the film will run at theatres for almost 12 day without any opponent, the distributors are asking for a larger share this time. A source says, "The distributors want to up their stake by claiming the 12-day window as the first week. They are demanding for their 52.5 per cent share for all of the 12 days. However, the multiplex owners want to break the period into two parts -- the first with the four days and the second with the customary seven days." That way, experts say the exhibitors will stand to gain on the film's collections. An insider says, "The distributors want to consider the 12-day period as the first week, as the Hrithik starrer will be breaking the lull period of two weeks before Diwali. A trade analyst however says that the final decision on the amounts would be taken a day or two before the release. He states, "Right now is too early for this." Rakesh Roshan was not available for comment. Will it be Monday? According to sources close to Rakesh Roshan, while Krrish 3 was initially said to release on November 3, a Sunday, the film could be aiming to hit the marquee on the following day. An inside says, "Lakshmi puja falls on Sunday and it can be expected that most families would get busy with the preparations. Releasing the film on Monday would be a safer bet." |
| Jiah Khan suicide: Respect life more than love, says Shah Rukh Posted: 13 Jun 2013 11:51 AM PDT  Jiah, 25, was found hanging at her flat in Sagar Sangeet Building in the posh Juhu area on June 3 around midnight. She apparently left a note, which points fingers towards Aditya Pancholi's son Sooraj, who has been arrested in connection with her suicide. Jiah and Sooraj were in a relationship for quite some time and reportedly there were problems between the couple, which seem to have forced her to take the extreme step. "Everyone has different definition of love. Love is a universal thing. I play the role of a lover which are written by a set of people...it is their interpretation of love. But I feel we should respect life more than love," Shah Rukh told reporters at the first look launch of 'Chennai Express'. "There are going to be difficult times in everyone's life but one must not give up, and respect life. Every problem will be sorted out, don't lose hope," he said. Jiah made her debut with Ram Gopal Varma's 'Nishabd' alongside megastar Amitabh Bachchan. She later appeared in Aamir Khan starrer 'Ghajini' and then in a supporting role in Akshay Kumar's 'Housefull', which was her last film. |
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