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Six awful things you can say to a guy

Posted: 10 Jan 2013 09:03 AM PST


Things were going swimmingly well until your last outburst. He has suddenly gone into a shell and snapped all communication with you.

You fear having meandered into a forbidden territory, and that things might never be the same again. But still can't point at what exactly went wrong?

One scathing remark is all it takes to shut him down, so even while you are in the middle of a serious fight, remember your vocabulary is key. Jesting about his mom, reminding him of an ex, are just some of the terrible things you can ever say to him. And in so doing create lasting scars in your relationship. We list six awful phrases that turn him red in the face, and need to be done away with ... pronto.

'Look how smart my brother is, you can never be like him'
Comparisons drive men away! So, simply stop making them, even if they are genuine. Particularly comparisons with your brother, father or worst of all another guy friend can trigger resentment in him. Feels Santosh Krishna, a software engineer, "As long it is a fair argument, I am all for it. But the moment my wife brings her father or brother in the frame, I withdraw. It is extremely demeaning for a guy who is doing his two bit to make her happy."

Agreed, he may not have control over situations the way your father does and usually fidgets his way out, but never insult him by telling him so, even in the most deranged of moments.

'I just know you can't get over her'
If you think this is the best way of getting back at him, then think again. Fine, you want to find out a few intimate details about his past life, but just watch out - never force your way through. He shall not take such an intrusion kindly. Furthermore, it'll only distance you from him, and he might think of you as someone very insecure in relationships. It's best to leave it at that and save him the discomfort. On many instances you end up reminding him fondly of an ex. So, simply steer clear of the subject. If it is out of bounds, so be it.

Chips in Ashrita Reys doing her masters in English, "I had a bad fight with my boyfriend once and accused him of still loving an ex. He gave me a glowering look and offered to drop me back home. It was strange, hadn't thought he would take serious offence."

'God, how much money do you blow on your friends!'
Remember, they are 'His' friends, and he shall splurge on him as he desires. Your constant reminders can make him jerky, and one day he might simply stop sharing money matters with you. Guys hate to be told how to spend, especially on their friends. And if you are having trouble with his spending ways, tell him so in other words, but never accusingly. "My boyfriend always ends up paying up for dinner, drinks etc when he is out with his friends. Oddly, they never even offer and he is okay with it. But gets annoyed when I tell him not to do so," says Sunaina Verma, a travel consultant.

For him, money is one thing and friends another. He will take you as a friendship breaker if you attempted to blend the two together. So, save your lecture on managing finances for another occasion!

'What's with your mom, does she always have a poker face'
He may have promised you the moon and the stars and to love you till the end of the world, but one snide remark directed at his mom can suddenly turn you into a villain. Yes, that is one relationship he jealously guards, and shall not let even you meddle with. His mom's cold indifference or those long glances may have you squirming in discomfiture, but steer clear of voicing them to him. He will simply regard you as snooty and disrespectful towards elders.

Sritapa Roy who recently got engaged to her long-time boyfriend has a say, "My would-be-mum-in-law always makes me uncomfortable, she casts long, considering looks when I talk. I did try to broach the issue with my fiance but he turned it down calling me selfish and cynical."

'Not today please, I am too sleepy'
Using a line like this will not only turn him off, but also make him wonder if he is with the right girl. He might start considering that a life with you would be full of drab domestic chores, grocery shopping and winding up before the television by day end. By depriving him of any kind of bedroom thrill you might pass on the message, though inadvertently, that 'sex with you is no longer pleasurable'. And wake up to a sea change in his mannerism. As a couple it is fair to talk it out, but to come up with banal excuses each time you don't want to have sex is sacrilege.

Explains Prashant Sirohi, a marketing executive, "My ex girlfriend was never in a mood for lovemaking. I thought the idea of sex with me put her off. So, gradually I started distancing myself from her, and subsequently we broke up."

Using the 'F' word
'F' words may be acceptable in general arguments, but to actually use one on your partner could spell doom for your relationship. It is absolutely unforgivable and he will loathe you for it. Even if you both make up for the fight later, you are assured he'll never completely forget about it.

Saloni Shah, pursuing her MBA thinks, abusing your partner is the worst thing you can do to your relationship. "In the middle of a fiery argument with my husband I blurted out the 'F' word, and suddenly everything around me went quiet. He dropped the discussion and did not speak to me for over a week. I still feel guilty about it," says she.

So, even when your rage turns tempestuous, there is sanity in not letting go of your vocabulary

Hrithik Roshan helps a paraplegic girl

Posted: 10 Jan 2013 08:54 AM PST

 

Hrithik Roshan recently helped a paraplegic girl rent a house in Oshiwara, so she didn't have to travel far to visit her doctor for her treatment.

The actor, who's looking after the needs of about 20 children suffering from paraplegia, was saddened to learn that she had met with an accident while travelling from Mira Road, where she stayed.

"She had suffered a spinal injury. When Hrithik learnt about it from the doctor, he felt it was better if she didn't have to travel. Hence he helped her rent a flat located close to the hospital," said our source.

Hrithik started supporting the cause of such children after he played a paraplegic in Guzaarish a couple of years ago.

Hot & Sexy Deepika Padukone exposing her cleavage

Posted: 10 Jan 2013 08:50 AM PST

Hot & Sexy Deepika Padukone exposing her cleavage

I didn’t know I was still so important: Hrithik Roshan

Posted: 10 Jan 2013 08:47 AM PST

Hrithik Roshan, who last came at the beginning of 2012 riding high on the success of "Agneepath", was overwhelmed when he was made to feel special on his 39th birthday Thursday. "Every birthday I don't expect to feel so important. Since my last film 'Agneepath" released a year back, I thought this birthday won't be so special. I didn't know I was still so important," he told reporters who gathered outside his Juhu house to celebrate his birthday. Talking about his surprise party, organised by his wife Suzanne on Wednesday night at a yacht, he said he too came to know about the bash through newspapers. "People got to know about it and so did I through the papers. When I asked my wife, she denied it. But the party was fun," said the actor who feels like a newcomer in the industry. "There is no mantra to staying young. You are as young as you feel. I still feel like a newcomer," said the actor who joined showbiz in 2000. He doesn't believe in making resolutions. "I am not used to making resolutions. They are made to be broken… you must look at a day from sunrise to sunset and make sure everyday is well spent," he said

Amitabh Bachchan back to shooting films by January end

Posted: 10 Jan 2013 08:40 AM PST

Megastar Amitabh Bachchan, who was last seen on the big screen in Ram Gopal Varma's "Department" in May 2012, reveals he will start shooting for his films by January-end."By end of January, few films will start and hopefully by the end of this year, you will see me on screen," the 70-year-old said here Tuesday at the first look launch of the film "Jolly L.L.B.".
He was seen in guest appearances in "Bol Bachchan" and "English Vinglish", and says he wanted to go a bit slow post his abdominal surgery in February 2012.
"I did not keep much work for me in between because of my surgery. There was only KBC ('Kaun Banega Crorepati 6′) and it will also end in a few days. After that I will start with the films," he added.
Among his films lined up for release is Prakash Jha's "Satyagraha – Democracy Under Fire". He will also be seen in Hollywood film "The Great Gatsby".
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